Unfortunately, low self-esteem is endemic among women in western countries, and seems to only be getting worse. Unrealistic body expectations in the media, and gender related power discrepancies in both personal relationships and careers all contribute to this troubling fact.
Oftentimes, what women need to empower themselves is simply to see another woman, just like them, that is thriving. Malia Civetz has given women all that and more with her music, which she identifies as being “self-positive, sex positive, and in pursuit of inclusivity”.
Civetz’s powerful yet melodic new single “When You’re Lonely” is a refreshing dose of clarity and insight into an unhealthy relationship, as it details a woman understanding her own worth.
“When You’re Lonely” introduces us to an upsettingly familiar situation in relationships: one partner being more involved than another. The chorus of this song is a repetition of the lines “You only miss me when you’re lonely”, and describes the thoughts of a woman as she understands her own value, and the unhealthiness of being attached to someone who views her as simply a means to ease their loneliness.
The track holds a multitude of powerful lines. Yet, the bridge of the song stands out in particular, as it’s repetition of the phrase “I ain’t no second choice/I ain’t no backup plan/but every time she’s gone/ you play my man” acts as both a moment of clarity, and a self-affirmation. The track raises the idea that women don’t need a relationship for emotional support and stability, and that they should attempt to find their value within themselves.
The music video for “When You’re Lonely”, which premiered on youtube on the 19th of February, displays the meaning of the song in a visually stunning manner. Civetz begins the video, frustrated and distressed with a man who is constantly trying to win her back with flowers.
As the flowers pile up, Civetz grows more and more confident in herself and is able to not only let-go of her unhealthy relationship, but grow on a personal level. The flowers that surround her towards the end of the video symbolize that growth, and the golden beams of light that engulf her act as a visual manifestation of her clarity and enlightenment. Altogether, the video is both inspiring and beautiful and adds a great deal to the experience of the song.
Whether you’re feeling uninspired, a little low on confidence, or simply just need a good dance, Malia Civetz’s “When You’re Lonely” is an empowering, jam-worthy song that everyone needs to hear.